Ok I am jumping ahead here a little because you have to know the relationship he has with his father.
When Dan was younger, he was kind of forced to spend time with his father. Thing is, Dan and his father didn't really like each other. Dan would go over there and once they shared a meal together, that was pretty much the end of their interaction. They would go back to his fathers house and Dan would take over the game system while his dad laid on the couch and watched TV.
His father would take him on vacation and would frequently complain about Dan's behavior. After a while, his father refused to ever take him again. At that point, he pretty much abandoned Dan unless Dan called him whining that he wanted something. Several times his father yelled that he wanted nothing to do with Dan anymore because he couldn't stand him.
For the last few years, the only time the father has been involved is when Dan calls crying that he is being treated unfairly. The father would get on the phone with the mother and a screaming match would ensue. My wife and I pretty much agreed the ONLY reason he would try and get her to give him what he wants was to get Dan out of his hair. Dan is a persistent bastard and could tire out Joan Rivers in an argument.
Often we said to Dan that if he didn't like how things were being run here, he should go live with his father. Dan had no interest in doing that. This made me wonder... did Dan enjoy the battle he got here? Living with his father would give him more freedom for sure.
Not that I don't feel bad about his relationship with his father, I do. It's just that these three people interacted like nothing I'd seen before. Hell, my ex and I hated each other but there was none of this "I will call dad if you don't give me what I want" crap! My ex would call, say my daughter wanted something or was doing something wrong and most often, I would back her regardless of how I felt about her. I knew it was healthy for my daughters to see a united front.
Anyway, you get the point.
Welcome to my misery!
For 10 years now I have had to tolerate the most disrespectful, lazy and utterly unrealistic kid I have ever met. I decided it was high time to document some of it to ease my internal suffering.
This is not about your average, "I am 16 and have developed a tude" kind of kid... oh no... these are things that will make the average person bite their lip, shake their head and mumble "If that was my kid..."
Even now, at 18yrs old, I often use this analogy when referring to him and it has been confirmed by many that this analogy is dead on:
He is the little kid in the grocery store... throwing a temper tantrum and holding his breath until his mommy buys him the candy he wants.
Seriously, would you say the right thing to do is give in to that kind of thing?
There is a very sad part to all of this... In the end, this "child" drew to a close a relationship with a woman I loved more than any other in my life. Sadly we could never come to an agreement with how to deal with this problem child.
WARNING: Some of the situations I document here may scare the weak enough to prevent them from ever having children. Some of it may cause nausea, light headedness and heart palpitations. Please do not operate heavy machinery during or after reading this.
Please read this blog in order using the Archive on the right as some bits of info may pertain to an earlier post.
This is not about your average, "I am 16 and have developed a tude" kind of kid... oh no... these are things that will make the average person bite their lip, shake their head and mumble "If that was my kid..."
Even now, at 18yrs old, I often use this analogy when referring to him and it has been confirmed by many that this analogy is dead on:
He is the little kid in the grocery store... throwing a temper tantrum and holding his breath until his mommy buys him the candy he wants.
Seriously, would you say the right thing to do is give in to that kind of thing?
There is a very sad part to all of this... In the end, this "child" drew to a close a relationship with a woman I loved more than any other in my life. Sadly we could never come to an agreement with how to deal with this problem child.
WARNING: Some of the situations I document here may scare the weak enough to prevent them from ever having children. Some of it may cause nausea, light headedness and heart palpitations. Please do not operate heavy machinery during or after reading this.
Please read this blog in order using the Archive on the right as some bits of info may pertain to an earlier post.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
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