Welcome to my misery!
For 10 years now I have had to tolerate the most disrespectful, lazy and utterly unrealistic kid I have ever met. I decided it was high time to document some of it to ease my internal suffering.
This is not about your average, "I am 16 and have developed a tude" kind of kid... oh no... these are things that will make the average person bite their lip, shake their head and mumble "If that was my kid..."
Even now, at 18yrs old, I often use this analogy when referring to him and it has been confirmed by many that this analogy is dead on:
He is the little kid in the grocery store... throwing a temper tantrum and holding his breath until his mommy buys him the candy he wants.
Seriously, would you say the right thing to do is give in to that kind of thing?
There is a very sad part to all of this... In the end, this "child" drew to a close a relationship with a woman I loved more than any other in my life. Sadly we could never come to an agreement with how to deal with this problem child.
WARNING: Some of the situations I document here may scare the weak enough to prevent them from ever having children. Some of it may cause nausea, light headedness and heart palpitations. Please do not operate heavy machinery during or after reading this.
Please read this blog in order using the Archive on the right as some bits of info may pertain to an earlier post.
3. A few examples to entice you...
I know people thrive on the pain of others so here I will quickly share a few of the key things that have torn my sanity (and marriage) to shreds.
These are in somewhat chronological order starting from about 9 years old.- Totally ruined our vacations with constant whining and refusal to participate unless we did exactly what he wanted to.
- Temper tantrums (serious ones) even at 18 years old
- Standing in front of the TV as we watch refusing to move unless we gave in
- Refusing to eat because he wanted something else
- Arguing for hours (no, I mean HOURS), following us wherever we went until my wife could no longer stand it. (does this to this day, 18yrs old)
- Calling his grandma to complain (even at 1am) and get her to yell at his mom (which she always did)
- Telling us when he is home and we are 4 hours away that he is having friends over regardless of what we said.
- Threatening to take our cars to the point where we have to hide the keys.
- Not going to school because he didn't feel like going (around 17 absences 2 years in a row)
- His mom screaming at him almost every morning to get him out of bed (what a way to start my day!)
- Stealing money
- Getting in the drivers seat of my wifes car when she is trying to leave for work and refusing to get out unless she let him use the car. (YEA, can you say TERRORIST? And yep, she gave in!)
Now... some of you might be saying this doesn't sound all that bad. To that I say, "HA!" Live it and them try and feed me that line.
One of the worst aspects of trying to deal with this... my wife constantly made threats to which she most frequently did not stand behind. I never knew what to believe and what not to. Sometimes just when I had hope everything was going to get better, she would revert back to being her son's flunky. This would make our relationship stressed to the max.
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